If you are reading this blog post, you are looking for genuine long distance relationship advice, right? Admittedly, it’s not easy to make a long-distance relationship last.
It’s going to take a great amount of trust, commitment, constant communication, and in-person meetings to make it last as long as you both want.
And getting back an ex-boyfriend whom you had a long-distance relationship (LDR) with is not an easy feat either.
But I understand that’s exactly what you want to accomplish by visiting this website and reading this article. So, that’s what exactly I’m going to do.
I need to warn some of you. This article is not meant for those people who have never ever met their ex-partner in person. Sorry about that.
Also, when I say “long-distance relationship,” I’m not referring to couples living only about 30 minutes or 1 hour apart from each other.
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Now that we’re clear with those things, let’s resume.
Long Distance Relationship Advice
Are You Two Even Cut Out for This Kind of Relationship Set-up?
Are you? It might be a good idea at first, but as you go along the relationship, you might secretly feel that you’re not really made for this type of relationship.
Sad as it may sound, not everyone is really cut out for this, especially those who didn’t start their relationship this way.
Individuals who will most likely NOT last in a long-distance relationship are:
- Can’t go a day without touching or be touched in-person by their partner
- Don’t have the patience to chat online or talk on the phone for hours and send endless text messages
- Not willing to spend (money and time) for traveling distant places
- Are closed or hesitant to the idea of performing phone or webcam sex
- Have hectic schedules
Do any of these ring a bell? What other characteristics have I left out? You have to understand that you need to be 100% fit for a long-distance relationship or save your marriage. Otherwise, it’s going to be tough to patch up or make your relationship last.
The Actual Steps to Getting Back with Your Long-Distance Ex-Boyfriend
Now, we go to the good stuff. Some of the points raised here may make you doubt of their efficacy.
But give the following ideas a chance before dismissing them easily. Is it a deal? Yes? Then let’s proceed.
Step 1: Stop All Lines of Communication
Yes, I’m not kidding. It may sound contradictory because he’s not talking to you in the first place, right? Clever, isn’t he?
Anyway, I’m guessing you’re not doing the same. Bet you’re still texting him, leaving him messages on his social media accounts and constantly checking if he’s online in Skype (or a similar application).
Please stop doing those for—drum roll, please—4 weeks.
“What? Isn’t that too long?”
Not really. Ignoring him for this long will bound to disturb him so much that he’ll practically bombard you with texts and calls to check up on you. Come on, try it and see the amazing results.
Step 2: Perform a Test Drill for Responsiveness
You’ve been out of his radar for a month. Good. But here’s another challenging part. How will you know that when you finally contact him, he will not do the same thing you did to him—ignore? Tricky but, fortunately, there’s a simple and interesting solution.
I’m sure you’re well exposed to internet memes and viral videos. Am I right? Well, there’s your solution. You just basically ‘Tag’ or send him a light and funny meme or video to see if he will respond to it.
If he responds, that’s your opportunity to initiate conversation. Reminder: This is not the time to talk about the status of your relationship.
Oh, another thing, feel free to make him feel a little jealous. Your goal is to make subtle hints to keep him guessing. Perhaps you could post a picture of a romantic movie on your Facebook profile with a caption: “What a perfect date movie. (Wink, wink)”
If he doesn’t respond, however, you just simply do ‘Step 1’ for the next 7 days before trying again.
Step 3: Make Your Conversation Wholesome, Interesting and Brief
Preferably, when it’s time to establish a stable communication with your ex after a month, you’ll do it through text messaging. Here are some guidelines to follow when texting him a message:
- Be detailed but keep it short, like one-text-message short.
- Throw a sincere compliment his way.
- Keep things clean and fun, please.
- If possible, insert positive memories that you had as a couple.
- Make him crave for more by completely not responding after 2-4 hours of texting.
Once it’s clear to you that he’s open to regularly communicating with you again, you can talk to him through online webcam-chat applications, like Skype.
Talk about the “emotions” you have for your past or current relationship status without asking the dreaded question: “Do you want to get back together?”
Step 4: Schedule a Real World Meeting
At this part of our game plan, you’re going to finally stop beating around the bush and call him up. What will you two talk about? You’re going to ask for an in-person meeting.
If he says ‘yes,’ it’s better if you’re the one who’ll go where he lives rather than the other way around. If he says ‘no’ or ‘I’m not ready,’ then you can go back to ‘Step 1’ again.
Well, those are the 4 steps to getting your ex-boyfriend back when in a long-distance relationship. I hope this will help you a lot in getting back together for good. Good luck!
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