Your relationship ended up badly, and now you can’t stop thinking about it. Your life has turned upside down and it feels like you can’t breath properly. In the beginning you were feeling angry, betrayed and disappointed, but know you started to miss him. You don’t know what to do. Maybe you even want him back. Is that a good idea? Is getting back with your ex ever a good idea?
When you remember the bad times and how you broke up, you are scared that you will have to go through that again, and I understand you. On the other hand, when you think about good times you had together, you even seem like a perfect couple and all you want is to see him, and I don’t blame you. If you decided that you don’t want to give up on your relationship but you are not sure where to start, there are few things that you can do. I am not saying that it is going to be easy, but important thing is that the goal is achievable.
If you lost special somebody that you want to be with again, these are things that you should ask yourself:
#1: Am i doing this because i am afraid to be alone?
Of course we all feel like that from time to time but it’s important for you to be sure that he is your special somebody. Are you really missing him or you are just miss to be with somebody. This is not a test where you should try to imagine yourself with somebody else, and if you do it you can be sure that he is not the one. No. The most important question is not if you can imagine yourself with another man, it’s do you want to be with anybody else but him that counts.
#2: Am I doing this because I am tired of going out and meeting potential someone all over again?
I agree, this can be something very hard and annoying at times. If you got out of a long-term relationship going out again can be even a nightmare. Of course it will be very frustrating when you can’t even remember when was the last time when you went on a date. However, you shouldn’t go back to something that you already know (relationship with your ex) just because you think that you can’t get anything better.
#3: Is he worth it?
This is one of the the most important questions that you have to ask yourself before you even consider getting back together with your ex. If you haven’t been sure until now, 3rd question should make you feel confident enough to decide. You have to know if he is worth your time, again, and everything that you will have to invest in order for your relationship to work for good. I am not going to lie it’s going to be far from easy. You have to know that you will need to work on yourself very hard. It doesn’t matter who is guilty for the breakup, before trying to even consider changing him, you have to look at yourself first. This is an inside job, therefore is the hardest one.
#4: Did I give myself enough time?
The importance of the silence after breakup is enormous and it is crucial for you to know how to make the best of it. You can start by asking the right questions like how to go through grieving process, how to heel yourself, how to build a good relationship with yourself, and after that you can build amazing relationship with other people that you can be proud of. It is more about getting to know yourself again after the hard time that you’ve been through.
All of this will set you free and you will finally get ready to make big decisions in your life again, without being scared if you made the good one. If you start asking yourself why is this happening to me, you are not helping yourself at all and it is going to get even worse because of your already low self-esteem. You have to let yourself go through all of the healthy emotions after breakup. It is very important to lower the chance of overreacting and jumping to conclusions that can ruin your plan especially if you want you to get back together with your ex for good.
If you are still sure that you want to get your ex back you should continue with reading.
Do I think that it is smart to want your ex back? I don’t know. Do I think that it is worth the fight? Absolutely Yes! Despite of the popular belief that relationship once broken is not worth fixing, I believe that if your relationship was strong before the breakup it has a good chance to be fixed. When two people love each other and spend a lot of time together they usually create a strong emotional connection. When it comes to breaking this kind of connection, whatever the reason was, it will be devastating for both of them.
It’s true that all of this can be overwhelming but sometimes we should try to find some kind of a balance and keep things simple as much as we can. If it’s clear as a day that your life has lost the meaning, and that you are lost without this person, than you are on a bigger assignment, how to get love of your life back! Every time when you try to make something work, you are also improving yourself. As I said it’s an inside job, and that makes it the hardest job for sure.
What I can recommend you is to check out this link below. It is a step-by-step guide that I’ve developed personally and which shows you exactly what to do to get him back. Reading carefully selected tips you will not only learn that following advise can help you get your ex back but it also can help you rebuild your relationship.